Let’s be real – a little twinge of jealousy here and there in a relationship is totally normal, right? It’s human to care about someone and not want to lose them. But when that twinge turns into constant overthinking, snooping through their phone, or feeling anxious every time they hang out with friends… that’s when it might be crossing a line.
Wondering if your jealousy is just “caring too much” or something that’s hurting your connection? Take this quick quiz to find out. Be honest with yourself – there’s no right or wrong answers, just clarity!
How to play: Rate each statement on a scale of 1-4 (1 = Never, 2 = Sometimes, 3 = Often, 4 = Always)
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I feel upset when my partner makes plans without me.
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I’ve questioned my partner about their exes more than once.
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I worry my partner might be unfaithful, even without any proof.
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I’ve snooped through my partner’s phone, texts, or social media DMs.
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I feel threatened when my partner gets along well with a coworker or close friend of the opposite sex.
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I call or text my partner frequently to check where they are and who they’re with.
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I get annoyed if my partner compliments someone else’s looks or personality.
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I’ve compared myself to people my partner interacts with (online or in real life) and felt inadequate.
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I replay conversations with my partner in my head, trying to find “hidden meanings” that suggest they’re hiding something.
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I’ve asked my partner to give me their social media or phone passwords to “keep an eye on things.”
Your Results:
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10-15 points: You’re in the “healthy care” zone! Your jealousy is minimal and comes from a place of affection, not insecurity. You trust your partner and know how to give each other space – keep that balance!
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16-25 points: You’re leaning into overjealousy. It’s not ruining your relationship yet, but those anxious thoughts are starting to creep in. Try talking to your partner about your feelings instead of letting them fester – most of the time, insecurity fades when you’re open.
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26-40 points: Your jealousy is likely hurting your relationship and your peace of mind. This usually stems from deep-seated insecurity (maybe from past hurts or low self-worth). It’s not your fault, but it’s important to address it – consider talking to a therapist or counselor who can help you build confidence and trust.
Remember: Jealousy isn’t a sign that you “love more” – it’s a sign that you need to feel more secure. Whether that security comes from talking to your partner, working on self-love, or getting a little extra support, you deserve a relationship where you feel calm and trusted.
Tag a friend who might need to take this quiz – let’s support each other in building healthy relationships!